Just like in love, a “licking dog” ultimately ends up with nothing. If this resonates with you, consider asking yourself why you’re doing this.
This article does not refer to any specific gender or sexual orientation, and is derived from a Twitter article written by Rosie, founder of Ten Protocol, organized, translated, and rephrased by Deep Tide Techflow.
Background Summary: Investment Lessons Learned After Losing All Positions in Three Months
Your bad ex and the worthless tokens you’ve lost have one thing in common: you. You are not simply unlucky; you are repeating the same pattern.
First sweet and then disappears. The person who said you were soulmates after one drink has now become the project party, calling you an “early believer” after the transaction.
They poured their full attention on you before you had given anything. They used a false sense of intimacy to numb your judgment. Once they succeeded, they disappeared.
In both situations, you treated others’ attention as if it were solid gold.
“You have to trust me.” Your ex said, “I don’t have to tell you where I was last night; you have to trust me.” Now, a group of anonymous teams says, “For safety reasons, we cannot disclose our identities, but please believe we can raise 50 million dollars.”
Both sides demand your unconditional trust, display aggression towards your questions, and make you feel that seeking basic information is unreasonable.
Remember, trusting others easily always results in you getting hurt.
Close yet distant. Your ex only appears when they need you, and disappears when they don’t. Now it’s the project team, which goes silent after the project launches, only to become active again when token unlocks approach.
They treat every contact as a transaction and view you as a resource to be exploited, rather than someone who genuinely cares. They all think that when they return, you will still obediently wait.
Big promises. They promise to take you out, but never deliver. The beautiful future they promised always remains just talk.
Now, you are chasing an investment in a roadmap that is fundamentally impossible to fulfill. Partners have “immediately” announced something, and the project is “just one more update away from being usable.”
You are in a relationship with a roadmap that only makes empty promises, just like being in love with someone’s “potential.”
Brainwashing control. When you question their obvious lies, you are told you are too sensitive. Now, when you question the project’s warning signs, you are labeled as “not understanding the future vision” or “leading the narrative.”
In both cases, you who discovered the problem became the problem. They make you doubt your judgment instead of questioning their actions.
Magical beings who only show up when they need you. When they only reply to your messages when they need something, you always find reasonable excuses for them.
Now, when the project team disappears for a few weeks, they suddenly become active when votes or liquidity are needed, and you are still making excuses for them.
They treat contacting you as a transaction, only remembering you when they need something.
Closed echo chambers. Your ex gradually cuts off your contact with friends who “don’t understand your relationship.” Now you are trapped in the project team’s community, where questioning is labeled as “a hater” or “looking for a fight.”
Both are creating information echo chambers, treating external voices as threats. They all understand that isolated individuals are easiest to control.
Secretly preparing to escape. When they were flirting with their ex, they said “it’s nothing,” but in fact, they were already preparing to leave.
Now the project team designs complex token lockup mechanisms but secretly leaves backdoors; the essence is the same.
By the time you realize it, the person is long gone, leaving you to bear the consequences alone.
You need to hear the truth
Your blind spots in relationships are turning into black holes in your wallet. You need recognition too much, making you easily fall into the trap of sweet talk.
The anxiety of fearing missed opportunities has led you into bad relationships and worthless projects.
You never set boundaries for yourself, which is clearly reflected in both your relationships and investments.
You always focus on potential rather than reality, resulting in emotional and financial setbacks.
What you need is not a better dating app or the next potential project.
You need to understand that red flags in relationships and alarms in investments are essentially the same.
Because the problem has never been with the other party.
Perhaps it’s time to seriously examine yourself.
This article is financial therapy, not investment advice. If this resonates with you, consider asking yourself why.
